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As nurturers, we can become so fixated on everything and everyone else, that we forget to take care of our own needs first.  From the minute we wake up in the morning, until we close our eyes at night, we are consumed with stuff that has absolutely nothing to do with us.

Tomorrow, I want you to start your day with an early morning prayer, devotion, meditation, or quiet time. Whatever suits your lifestyle, do it. During lunch, spend at least 15 minutes of alone time and do absolutely nothing. Put your phone on mute, tell your husband, wife, significant other, co-workers and friends that you do not want to be disturbed for this period. If you know they are going to disregard your request, unplug the phone in advance, and do not tell them where you will be for this period.

At night, after you have completed your chores, make sure you spend another 15-30 minutes of alone time to collect your thoughts.  This will allow you to reflect on your day, plan for tomorrow and clear your mind before you go to sleep.

I promise you, if you are intentional about spending time on self, before you know it it will become a habit.

I learned this the hard way. I used to think that I had to be everything for everyone until that day, when I woke up emotionally and physically burned out. I was now in a position of needing someone else to get me back on track. A therapist.  From that day onward, I decided that no matter what came my way, I will only do what I can emotionally, spiritually, physically and financially to help others. I made a commitment to myself that I will be first in my life. Yes, I will do anything for my husband and children, but only after I was satisfied emotionally and spiritually first.

We are only as useful to others as we are to self. Make you a priority today! Before you know it, you will be birthing long lost dreams, completing or furthering your education, losing those extra pounds, rekindling your relationship, etc.

As nurturers, everyone depends on us. As off today, I want you to commit to putting self first. You are depending on it.


Redeemed nurturer