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Signs you’re in a relationship with someone who truly loves you

Signs you’re in a relationship with someone who truly loves you

In a world where love can be hard to come by, being in a healthy and loving relationship is something to be treasured. However, sometimes we need a little reminder that we are loved. If you are looking for signs that your partner truly loves you, read on.

When you are with someone who genuinely loves you, they will accept you for who you are, quirks, and all. This means that your partner will embrace everything about you, even if it drives others nuts. It is important that you also show your partner the same tolerance and patience towards their quirks, as this will create a balanced and harmonious relationship.

In a world full of distractions and responsibilities, time is a precious gift. When your partner loves you, they will make you a priority in their life. They will take the time to be with you and engage in activities that bring you joy, even if they are not personally interested in them. This kind of investment in shared experiences is a testament to their willingness to put effort into the relationship and make you happy.

Another important aspect of being in a loving relationship is thoughtfulness. When your partner remembers important dates, personal preferences, and details about your life, it shows that they care for you and consider your happiness a priority. When they display unexpected gestures of kindness, like leaving sweet notes or surprising you with something you love, it means that they are always thinking about your happiness.

Physical touch is also an essential component of expressing love. Holding hands, hugging, or cuddling can create an intimate and romantic connection that words cannot express. Your partner should not only be willing but eager to show their affection for you through physical touch.

Love is not always easy, but when you are with someone who truly loves you, it can make all the difference. Remember to cherish and appreciate your partner, embrace their quirks, invest time in shared experiences, and always be thoughtful and affectionate towards one another.

How Your Social Habits Could Be Ruining Your Love Life

How Your Social Habits Could Be Ruining Your Love Life

Are you having a hard time keeping healthy relationships in your love life? It might be time to evaluate your social habits. Our everyday routines and practices can have a significant impact on our relationships. The wrong habits can even take away the vitality and spark of a relationship. This article explores the negative impact of social habits on our love lives and provides tips on how to change these habits.

In this fast-paced, technology-driven world, our social habits can easily wreak havoc on our relationships. We may not even realize that our daily actions can have a profound impact on the health and longevity of our love life. It’s crucial to recognize that certain habits can drain the life out of our relationships, leaving us feeling disconnected and unfulfilled.

One of the most destructive habits is constantly checking our phones. With the prevalence of smartphones, it’s effortless to become emotionally distracted by our devices. Rather than being present with our partners, we find ourselves scrolling through social media or mindlessly checking emails. This constant distraction erodes intimacy and creates a sense of disconnection.

Being too busy for intimacy is another detrimental habit. We live in a society that praises busyness, but it’s important to prioritize quality time and physical intimacy with our partners. Neglecting to do so sends the message that our partners aren’t essential to us. This can lead to feelings of loneliness and resentment.

Another toxic habit is comparing our relationships with others. Social media and the constant flood of picture-perfect couples can make us feel inferior or unsatisfied with our own relationships. Instead of appreciating what we have, we start longing for something different or better. We should focus on cultivating our unique love story instead of seeking validation from others.

Always seeking external validation is another destructive habit that can ruin our relationships. When we depend on others to validate our self-worth, we undermine the trust and security in our relationships. It’s vital to recognize our worth and value independently, without relying on others to validate our self-esteem.

Neglecting our partner’s needs and emotions is also a prevalent issue. This is especially true when it comes to communication. It’s essential to listen actively to our partner and respond in ways that validate their feelings and concerns. Neglecting our partner’s emotions can create an unhealthy power dynamic that can lead to conflict and hurt feelings.

In conclusion, our social habits play a crucial role in our relationships. It’s important to evaluate our actions and behaviors to ensure that we are contributing positively to our love lives. The wrong habits can damage our relationships, while the right habits can bring about healthy, fulfilling, and long-lasting relationships. Take the time to reevaluate your habits today and create positive changes for a happier tomorrow.

Tina Laws Credentials

Tina Laws Credentials

Tina went on to work as an Executive Director in a non-profit organization and saw first hand the communication challenges in today’s workplace and how conflict could easily be avoided and resolved if people had the right training and skills. Tina now facilitates workshops, speaks globally on communication in the workplace and coaches intimate couples on healthy conflict resolution and effective communication in today’s world. She is passionate about teaching how healthy conflict resolution and effective communication is key to better relationships at home, at work and in the world!

Tina T. Laws is a nationally recognized brand, with extensive experience in community leadership, mediation, relationship and intimacy coach, public speaking, advocating for women’s and girls’ rights, facilitating workshops and co-producer and talk show host on television. She has studied a wide range of verbal and non-verbal communication styles, which she mastered during her years of working with the offending population in Bermuda. Tina now uses this experience to coach women and couples and leaders and teams on effective communication. The Love Compass (formally Under Konstruction), her business, provides services to individuals, couples, corporate leaders and organizations, to get better relationships using healthy conflict resolution and communication.

Tina has studied a wide range of verbal and non-verbal communication styles and applied these skills during 8 years of working with the offending population in Bermuda’s Correctional Facilities, government department as Probation Officer, and experience as an Education Therapist in the Bermuda Public School System, and beyond. She saw that the key to successful communication lay in understanding the cultural background of each person. This built trust and respect and allowed for conflict to be resolved and healthy relationships created. Additionally, Tina has spent the last 15-plus years coaching professional women, couples and victims of domestic violence to have better relationships. During her initial dabbling on social media, she was invited by Lamone Woods of Crimson Multimedia to be a Bermuda Television talk show host, her show which she co-produced is called “Relationship Theory” and episodes still can be seen today on Channel 82 and her YouTube channel, with Season 2 to air later this year. As a distinguished passionate, charismatic, and engaging public speaker, Tina can be seen speaking on panels and facilitating workshops for schools, nonprofits, and corporations, featured on international podcasts, and has been published in the media on the Royal Gazette, Bernews, Bermudian Magazine, Magic 107.5 radio, and SheHubtv among others. Her most recent accomplishment was being a keynote speaker at Tuskegee University. Tina was most notably selected as a 2019 recipient for the International Visitors Leadership Program (IVLP) which is the U.S Department of State’s premier professional exchange program that selects professional emerging leaders from around the world to the United States.

Tina is the founder of Under Konstruction, a business she started in 2016 as a response to the high demand for domestic violence, abuse, and relationship challenges women face. It started back then as a service that helped women and couples who want better- by owning their positions to have better relationships. Tina gives them the tools to express themselves authentically and ways to develop healthier boundaries in the relationship. As a teen domestic violence survivor, then insecure single parent, Tina had to OWN IT, empower herself, and learn to not bring baggage to a new marriage by OWNING it and utilizing the same tools she now teaches her clients. Fast forward to 2022, Under Konstruction has expanded and transformed to also help corporate leaders, organizations, individuals, couples, and teens globally communicate effectively in our diverse world. Tina teaches business leaders and staff how to address and overcome conflict. As a relationship and intimacy coach, she enjoys teaching couples and women healthy conflict resolution and  effective communication.

As a nonprofit leader, community facilitator, and advocate, Tina knows the power of giving back to her community and has been publicly recognized and awarded by Bermuda Government leaders for her service. She speaks and has sat on boards and committees to give back, some include The Gender Affairs Council – Committee Member, The Transformational Living Centre – Steering Committee member, Teen Service Awards Committee Member, SCARS Facilitator, The Centre Against Abuse – Domestic Violence; Anger Management, Grief, and Forgiveness co- facilitator, The Lifeline – Lifers group at the Westgate Correctional Facility committee member, and with The Abuse Center for both Women and Children, and Domestic Abuse Centre for Women and Children.

Family is most important to Tina, she has been happily married to Shawn since 2000, and has two adult children that she is most proud of, son Mark and daughter Shauntia and two amazing grandchildren, Arai and Ahrya. She is also the daughter that still runs to her mom, Alvere for advice. One of her hobbies includes traveling because she loves the freedom to explore different cultures, people, clothing, and experiences. Tina loves one sport, and that’s boxing. Watching a boxing match reminds her of the principles in life, no matter how many times you get knocked on the ropes or down, you can get back up and fight an honest round for your title. She loves the Lord and credits her personal and professional accomplishments a success through Him.


Friendships Are Overrated

Have you ever questioned your friendships? As the saying goes, if you want to know who your true friends are, go through something. Well, I have been through something, and although I knew who they were or wasn’t prior to going through, I am reminded today of my true friendships.

Although there are different levels of friendships, I have always been that friend to confide in, support (financially, spiritually, emotionally etc) and be that cheerleader for those in which I value.
I have been the mediator between couples, their children and other friends and family. I have been betrayed and chose to forgive. I have given of myself in times when I shouldn’t have. I have supported projects, family events and entrepreneurship adventures. Sadly, as I reflect on friendships today, I am reminded that many of my so called friendships are lopsided.

Who do I blame? Myself.  As I reflect on friendship, I am also reflecting on my participating in each of them. None of what I am seeing today came from out of no where. It’s been this way, I just chose to overlook it. However, as off today, I will no longer tolerate those people, places and things in which add little to no contribution to my life ( my life also includes my family).

Not sure if it’s my big bark, got it all together appearance, or my ability to accomplish what I pray for, but what I do know is that AS OFF TODAY, I will no longer fill my days honoring friendships that do not honor or value me.

I Choose Me