by Tina Laws | Aug 9, 2023 | Thoughts
In a world where love can be hard to come by, being in a healthy and loving relationship is something to be treasured. However, sometimes we need a little reminder that we are loved. If you are looking for signs that your partner truly loves you, read on.
When you are with someone who genuinely loves you, they will accept you for who you are, quirks, and all. This means that your partner will embrace everything about you, even if it drives others nuts. It is important that you also show your partner the same tolerance and patience towards their quirks, as this will create a balanced and harmonious relationship.
In a world full of distractions and responsibilities, time is a precious gift. When your partner loves you, they will make you a priority in their life. They will take the time to be with you and engage in activities that bring you joy, even if they are not personally interested in them. This kind of investment in shared experiences is a testament to their willingness to put effort into the relationship and make you happy.
Another important aspect of being in a loving relationship is thoughtfulness. When your partner remembers important dates, personal preferences, and details about your life, it shows that they care for you and consider your happiness a priority. When they display unexpected gestures of kindness, like leaving sweet notes or surprising you with something you love, it means that they are always thinking about your happiness.
Physical touch is also an essential component of expressing love. Holding hands, hugging, or cuddling can create an intimate and romantic connection that words cannot express. Your partner should not only be willing but eager to show their affection for you through physical touch.
Love is not always easy, but when you are with someone who truly loves you, it can make all the difference. Remember to cherish and appreciate your partner, embrace their quirks, invest time in shared experiences, and always be thoughtful and affectionate towards one another.
by Tina Laws | Sep 21, 2018 | Thoughts
Have you ever questioned your friendships? As the saying goes, if you want to know who your true friends are, go through something. Well, I have been through something, and although I knew who they were or wasn’t prior to going through, I am reminded today of my true friendships.
Although there are different levels of friendships, I have always been that friend to confide in, support (financially, spiritually, emotionally etc) and be that cheerleader for those in which I value.
I have been the mediator between couples, their children and other friends and family. I have been betrayed and chose to forgive. I have given of myself in times when I shouldn’t have. I have supported projects, family events and entrepreneurship adventures. Sadly, as I reflect on friendships today, I am reminded that many of my so called friendships are lopsided.
Who do I blame? Myself. As I reflect on friendship, I am also reflecting on my participating in each of them. None of what I am seeing today came from out of no where. It’s been this way, I just chose to overlook it. However, as off today, I will no longer tolerate those people, places and things in which add little to no contribution to my life ( my life also includes my family).
Not sure if it’s my big bark, got it all together appearance, or my ability to accomplish what I pray for, but what I do know is that AS OFF TODAY, I will no longer fill my days honoring friendships that do not honor or value me.
Sincerely
I Choose Me
by Tina Laws | Sep 7, 2018 | Thoughts
SISTAS! Why do we allow a guy to come between our greatness?
While out minding my own business yesterday, I overheard two ladies arguing over what seemed to be one guy. With tears in her eyes, the older sista seemed to be closely connected to him. As she pleaded with the younger sista to leave her family alone. The words that came next from the younger sistas mouth took me way back. She said, ” if he was that happy with you, he wouldn’t be with me.” She further said, “why don’t you just gjve him a divorce and be done with it.” Wow. I immediately felt a sense of pain for the younger sista as I knew it will not end well.
It reminded me of the many similar relationships that I had known of in the past. I, personally, have never been a recipient of waiting on a husband to leave his wife, but have been up close an personal with those who have been.
Sistas, it don’t work like that! If you are sharing saliva with another sista in hopes that he will leave her because you are sharing all of your tricks (bedroom goodies) with him, you are doing yourself a disservice. If he is married, it should automatically be hands off. I don’t care what he tells you. If things are that bad in the marriage, he would get a divorce. If he leaves you and goes home to his wife (children or not) thats where he wants to be. If he has moved in with you and is still someone else’s husband, you are selling yourself short.
Sistas, we are way more powerful when we work together. Why allow a man to degrade, disrespect and lie to you just to get him a little dessert on the side.
After the many episodes I have witnessed, here is what you can be left with if you choose someone elses husband.
* You become his permanent side chick* He leaves and moves in with you but remains married to another* He divorces and you live happily ever after until…* He divorces, you date and he marrys another* You find out there are 2 of you* You become the ex wife* …………
I can go on but will leave it right here for now.
Sistas you are WORTHY of having your own husband. You are worth so much more. How about lifting sistas up and telling their husbands to go home and look after them..
SignedI’ve seen it many times
by Tina Laws | Sep 5, 2018 | Thoughts
When Life Hits You
Have you ever been awakened extremely early in the morning with 100 ideas running through your mind at once? Well, that was me today. Although really exhausted from helping my daughter to relocate from one address to another all week, and feeling disconnected from my regular daily responsibilities and chores, I knew that I had to get up and start writing.
There have been times in the past that I have had a major idea run through my mind but because I was too lazy to get up, I went back to sleep; only to discover that I had forgotten half of my ideas, once I was fully awake. Am I the only one who has experienced this?
I feel so accomplished. I have prepared my business newsletter, finished one article, and have started another, and have reviewed the materials for an upcoming training I am hosting.
Although my days usually start with prayer and meditation, I feel as though today was the start to something greater. This is the first time in a while that I have started my day with work that didn’t feel like work. It appeared to me that my greatest fear had happened. I always said that when I start my business, I never want to feel as though I was working. I never want to feel like I am pouring from an empty well. Then it hit me! I was pouring from an almost empty well. But no more.
Today, I have decided to re-commit myself to ME. Everything that I partake in will have a fresher outlook. It’s truly amazing how fast we can find ourselves in a slump due to our personal, social and business commitments. It is days like these that I pat myself on the back, not because I have it all together, but because I catch myself before I fall apart.
She’s back!
by Tina Laws | Aug 27, 2018 | Thoughts
Have you ever been pushed outside of your comfort zone by a new client? Well, that was me today. During our second session, Sarah (not her real name) mentioned that she wanted to reveal something to me since our first session, but did’t know where to start. Me being very persuasive, I convinced her to release it and move on. What came next had me all the way messed up (LOL). She started off by saying how she enjoys working with me, but feels guilty of the things in which she has done with someone I love (OO-KAY). She went on to say that it was her who once shared my ex partner and that she has always felt guilty about being the cause of him leaving me. At that point, I laughed hysterically! After catching myself, and gaining a six pack, I asked her if she felt better getting it off her chest. I also, released her of the guilt by informing her that I was not in love with him, and that I had left the relationship because I was unhappy. I further assured her that until acquiring me as her coach, I knew absolutely nothing about her. It was at the moment, I was at a cross road. Do I keep her as a client, or release her to someone she hadn’t any guilty feelings towards?
Long story short, she remains a client. After a few more minutes of her expressing her guilt and I informing that I was more happy for her releasing the guilt than anything, our session began.
I have been thinking about it ever since. Can you imagine how many women are walking around feeling guilty, and / or with a head filled with lies from your ex? Or have become enemies based off of lies. The sad thing about it all is that Sarah found out the hard way, that she wasn’t his “Special” victim.
As women, we need to be accountable for our actions and or responses. If he is running down his wife, girlfriend, ex-wife or baby mama, what do you think he would do to you?
Signed
I was once lost
ps: Sarah has given me permission to share in hopes of enlightening someone else.
